Self-Care at Christmas: Finding Calm in the Chaos
By Liz Cordin, Student Services Officer
Christmas – the season of joy, family, and celebration. But is it? For many people, it can be one of the most emotionally challenging times of the year. The pressure to be merry – often referred to as forced fun! The demands on finances and the weight of expectations can leave people feeling overwhelmed and just wishing it was over.
“The festive season can highlight what’s missing as much as what’s present. Those who are grieving may feel an acute sense of loss or isolation. Family gatherings can create tension and for others the social demands and constant activity can be draining”, says Liz, the Student Services Officer at Iron Mill College.
“Our students often have the added pressures of work, family and part time study so we encourage them to think about coping mechanisms that can work for them”
· It’s okay to say no! That could mean skipping a social event, setting a budget for gifts, or carving out time for rest. Boundaries protect your energy and help you stay emotionally balanced.
· If loneliness is a concern, plan moments of connection. Reach out to a friend, attend a community event, or volunteer - helping others can ease feelings of isolation and bring a sense of purpose.
· Keep routines that support your wellbeing. Try to maintain regular sleep, exercise, and balanced meals.
· Remember it’s not about the cash – it’s about the connection with others!
· Take breaks from social media – comparisons are not helpful.
· Focus on small grounding practices: a quiet walk, a few deep breaths, or writing down three things you’re grateful for. These simple actions can anchor you in the present and reduce anxiety.
As Liz explains; “The best gift you can give yourself at Christmas is compassion. By slowing down, setting boundaries, and honouring your own needs, you create space for peace. So, start now and put your plans in place for a restorative break”
By Liz Cordin
Student Services Officer
enquiries@ironmill.co.uk
Written October 2025
